Our Critical Voice

Our work is not to rid ourselves of the critic, the negative voice in our head.  That voice is a valuable thread in the fabric of our being.  Our work is to increase the volume of the voice of our best self.  To listen and give our attention to THAT voice.  That is our work. Hummingbird

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It’s a New Day!

Sunrise SaliboatEvery day is new. It’s never been before.   Yet we approach it as though it will be just like every day we’ve known.

In the past when someone would ask me, “How are you?” I would often reply, “Same stuff, different day.” The truth in that statement lives in our expectation, in our point of attraction, in our vibration. Our vibration is based on our expectation, our emotion, and the feelings generated by our thoughts.

In fact, it’s a new day full of unlimited possibility! Each moment is full of unlimited possibility.

It’s a new day with the potential for new ideas and expanded awareness. Why do we keep ourselves in “groundhog day” mode by thinking the same thoughts, going through the same motions, performing the same tasks, eating the same foods, exhibiting the same behaviors, acting out the same habits, and feeling the same feelings? Because we don’t know how to do anything else.

How do we change? How do we access the new ideas and expanded awareness? One way is by stopping thought, word, and action through meditation. By allowing something new to arise out of the silence and nothingness. Or out of the allness and the infinite. By being open to infinite possibility.

When the window is open, the singing bird will come.


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The Guest House – Rumi

Rumi eloquently illustrates how our guidance may come in unexpected ways . . .

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The Guest House – Rumi

This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.


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Transcending Fear

What can FEAR teach us? In her TED talk, Karen Thompson Walker identifies what she calls “The Beautiful Conflict” — the desire to contribute vs. the desire to be safe.

You know you have much to contribute, yet you can’t seem to get it done. Is fear stopping you? You may not directly experience fear as fear. Your inner critic may label it procrastination, excuses, or laziness. Any kind of “resistance” may be a disguise for an underlying fear.

Remember, your body is your subconscious mind. Connect to your underlying fear, befriend it, understand it, embrace it. Recognizing and exploring your resistance diffuses its power. Like a beach ball, you can push it under water with avoidance or powering through, but it will continue to pop back to the surface until you acknowledge and reframe it.

How can you feel safe in your fear? What is the source of your underlying fear? What other emotions are tied to it? Where do you feel it in your body? Are the beliefs and perceptions that underlie your fear based in the truth of the present or an experience from the past? Use judgment free awareness to explore these questions.

When you connect to underlying fear and emotion, it can no longer run as a subconscious program. It becomes an object of your attention that allows you to respond instead of react. Now you are playing from choice instead of fear.


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Age is All About Perspective

My 86-year old client complained that he was out of breath. While I offered him encouragement he lamented that “If only I could perpetually be 72 [years old]. I was stunned. Seventy-two?, I said incredulously, why not 55 or 40? Why 72? He went on to explain that 72 was a fabulous year for him. In fact, the entire decade of his 70’s were fantastic.

Age is simply a number. It is our beliefs and expectations about age that color our experience, not age itself.

Life is supposed to be fun! No matter what your age, it is always NOW. Don’t wait to live your best life.

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Mindfulness and Presence

In my last post I mentioned mindfulness and presence as tools to bring you out of resistance and into moving forward with a task.  What exactly are mindfulness and presence? Ubiquitous buzzwords in the self-help and spiritual communities, they are often used interchangeably. Let’s take a look.

In the example of being hijacked by my resistance to finish a blog post, I stopped writing to check laundry, do dishes, and rearrange my workspace. Eventually, I became present (what’s happening in this very moment and why?), recognized my resistance and the associated “avoidance” activities, and returned to finish the post.

Had I been practicing mindfulness, I would have become aware and conscious that my urge to get up from the computer was an avoidance program kicking in and I would have nipped it in the bud and never got up in the first place. If I had stayed present with my writing, the other activities wouldn’t even occur to me.

This is just one example. I’m sure you’ve heard of mindful eating as a tool for weight management.   Have you ever blown through a bag of chips or bowl of ice cream while watching TV? That is mindless eating. If you are mindful and present, it’s not likely that you’ll finish an entire bag of chips and wonder where they went.

Easier said than done? You bet! It takes practice, but the rewards are well worth it.



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Your Body is Your Subconscious Mind

Your body is your subconscious mind.  Memories are stored in your body.  If something doesn’t “feel” right, often you don’t do it.  The knot  in your stomach, constriction in your throat, or pressure in your chest are indicators that your subconscious programs are kicking in.  Pay attention! This is where your work is done.

What are your strategies for ignoring this resistance?  Checking email or Facebook? Changing the laundry? Shopping or running errands? Doing dishes? Organizing your workspace?  These are just a few examples of avoidance activities that hijack us when our subconscious programs engage.

It’s these very programs that are keeping you stuck – in fear, shame, guilt, not-enoughness.  It all boils down to some variation of FEAR – fear of failure, fear of success, fear of humiliation, fear of wasting your time, fear of disapproval, fear, fear, fear of anything.

Does any of this resonate with you?  While writing this I did three of the above avoidance activities – laundry, dishes, and changed my workspace. My subconscious patterns were hijacking me!  What brought me back to writing?  Mindfulness.  Presence.  

Stay tuned for more on mindfulness and presence.

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Fear of Failure

Are you paralyzed in some area of your life by the fear of failure?  Dr. Shelly Carson, Harvard psychology professor and author of the book, The Creative Brain, tells us that

*Failure is part of the creative process.

*Quality ideas are the function of the quantity of ideas.

*Never be afraid to fail – You are developing a quantity of work out of which QUALITY will emerge.

We can change our brain activation patterns with training and practice.


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